Narcissists, Abusers and Batterers: The Tools Used to Encourage Trauma Bonding in their Partners (Transcend Mediocrity Book 69)

Many of my readers come to me wanting to learn more and more about narcissists, abusers, batterers and trauma bonding that occurs (and the woman’s inability to leave the toxic relationship even when she has knowledge that it is toxic). The purpose of this ebook is to uncover the overt and covert tools that are used by narcissists, abuser, and batterers to control, cause dependency, and form trauma bonds with people whom they want to keep in their lives to feed their own egos.
My book will refer to narcissists in particular, but the rules also apply for those who are abusers and batterers on other levels. An abuser and batterer may or may not have a mental illness or personality disorder. You may think that they have a personality disorder or illness due to their largely chaotic and toxic behaviors, however, all of their activities generally have a very specific purpose as you will see explained later in this book.
My books have touched on the narcissist and the law of reciprocity, and how to talk to a narcissist. I cover things like the Madonna-Whore Complex as it pertains to narcissists and cheating, and I discuss the trauma bonding that occurs in a toxic relationship. Narcissists are everywhere, and the truth is that we need to find better ways to interact with and relate with them if we have one in our life.
There is a statistic flying around the internet that assumes that nearly 1 in 4 people has the traits of narcissism. It is no surprise that the number is climbing higher every year due to poor parenting and better diagnoses. Since between 18-25% of the population is regularly seeking help for the many mental health illnesses and personality disorders (an average based on statistics from the National Institute of Mental Health), it is no surprise that narcissists make up such a large percentage of the population.
Narcissists are extremely wounded children at the core. Narcissism is one of the most difficult personality disorders to treat. Most narcissists have very deep narcissistic injuries inside themselves that they struggle to understand and to change. They often grow up not know how to care for themselves and love themselves that way a normal person would. They struggle with living parasitic lives which are often damaging to others. They lack a moral compass to guide them.
Even though a narcissist knows deep down what society’s views of right and wrong are, they often have had to go against their morals and values in order to continuously please a parent or someone else in their life. They may have had to take on a different identity for someone else’s sake, because the other person didn’t love them for who they were and wanted them to be something they weren’t. They may have had to continuously lie in order to avoid the wrath of someone else. They had to continually cover up things, so they became adept at doing so.
Often a narcissist grew up believing that everything he or she did was wrong in the eyes of someone else. They began to tailor their behavior to the other person, instead of determining who they were deep down. Due to this cognitive dissonance in their childhood, their brain had ultimately two choices. Choose to be someone they were not because the situation required it… Or choose to be themselves and be eternally punished and rejected by someone else as a consequence. Most children in this position with a toxic person overpowering them would choose the former… This results in the brain choosing the safer alternative (them being what someone else wants them to be instead of risking their survival by being true to their own identity).
You can see how this is an extremely damaging situation in which the narcissist grows and develops in. He ultimately accepts that he must lie, pretend, cheat, act and be whatever the other, more powerful person wants him to be. He becomes the ultimate people pleaser. He denies himself...

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